When To Stop? When Is It OK?

How do you know when enough is enough? How do you know when to continue on and when to stop? In our society we give great praise and admiration to those that continue on when everything says they should stop. It is the athlete that keeps running with a torn muscle, the salesperson that stays late all the time to make those extra calls, and those people that push on (through pain, uncertainty, and forces telling them to stop) to make it happen that we put up on a pedestal. We make movies about it. We tell stories, give praise, and hold these people as the ideal of what we should strive for. They are the dichotomy of commitment, focus, and determination. They show what a human being can do when they set their mind to it. They are the role models we cling to when we need inspiration and strength.

and yet…

Is it worth finishing a race with a torn muscle if you will never be able to compete again? Is it worth those extras calls and late nights if it costs your family and marriage? Is it worth causing permanent, irreparable damage, physically and emotionally, to cross the finish line, make the grade, and achieve success? Where do you draw the line? When do you push on, press on, and continue and when do you stop, knowing that what you are doing is not working and it’s time to try something else?

I have no answers. I have no insights. I work with this concept daily. It was brought home to me this week as my physical body had challenges that needed to be addressed and now must take time to heal. When do I push on and finish what I said I was going to and when do I stop and rest? I think for each one of us this question is intensely personal. What you are doing and why must be weighed against what the potential costs will be. In the end we must all follow what our heart tells us to do, even when those around us are telling us to keep going or telling us to stop. Sometimes, until you strive for something with all your heart, you don’t realize you aren’t willing to pay the price it will cost. Despite what everything around you is saying, that’s OK. Really it is. Sometimes it isn’t until you fully commit to something, throw your heart completely into the game, that you realize you really didn’t want to play in the first place. That doesn’t make you a loser. That doesn’t mean you are uncommitted. It doesn’t mean you are unfocused. It just means you didn’t think the gain was worth the price you were going to have to pay. You decided it was better to rest, go home on time, to take time off, or change what you were focused on.

Guess what? That’s OK. Really it is.

In love and light

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