Is “Should” Affecting Your Energy Level?

How often in your vocabulary do you use the word “should?” Just take a moment and think about how you use the word “should” in your sentences and your thoughts. “I should clean the house.” “I should do the laundry.” “I should make those business calls.” “I should redo my resume.” “I should visit my mother.” The word “should” is defined as: used in auxiliary function to express obligation, propriety, or expediency. The word “should” is an obligating word. It is a word used to get ourselves or someone else to do something right now or in the very near future. This word invokes guilt and shame because we are not doing whatever action we feel we must do. When you think about the word “should,” notice how your body feels. Notice how your energy level is affected. Your body may feel heavy. It may feel tired. You may also feel a sense of resentment and resistance. “Should” is a word that strips us of our power. “Should” is not a word that creates energy and movement. It is not a word that creates a connection or feelings of joy and happiness. “Should” is a binding word. It is a word of restriction.

There is power in our words. All words have a vibration, a sound, and an energy to them. There is power in how we think and what we say. This power can support us and energize us, or this power can hinder us and cause us to feel tired. The word “should” is not a word that empowers. It is not a word that energizes. Now think about the word “choose” or the word “desire.” Think about the energy to those words. These words have a different feeling to them than the word “should” does. Think about how empowering it would be if you started to choose to do things all those “must dos” in your life. “I choose to do the laundry.” “I choose to make those business calls.” Think about how different of an energy level that creates in you than the word “should.” Now think about how different an energy level it creates if you desire to do those actions! “I desire to clean the bathroom today.” “I desire to visit my mother.” “I desire to do my resume.” “I desire to do my newsletter!” There is a totally different energy to them. There is a completely different feeling in your body. You may not necessarily feel that desire in that moment. However by just using a different word in the sentence you have now created a completely different tone and feeling in your body. Begin to create your own high energy vocabulary by removing from it the words that have a low energy feeling to you and replacing them with words that have a high energy feeling to you. This will completely change how you feel when taking actions and raise your energy levels!

In love and light


Are You Managing Expectations?

This week’s ramblings is based off of a situation that occurred at supper the other night. Here’s a little background information so you understand the situation. We had been gone most of the week before and because we didn’t want anything to spoil while we were gone, we had very few food choices in the house to pick from. By this time, we had been home for a few days but hadn’t gotten to the grocery store yet. So still not a lot of choice to eat in the house. So for supper that night I had pulled out two containers of beef stew from the freezer. I LOVE beef stew! I was looking forward to it all day. As Jim was getting it ready (you know, putting it in bowls and heating it up) he asked, “Why is there chicken in the beef stew?” This made no sense to me either. I came to realize that what I thought was beef stew was really the left-over chicken and veggies we had made in the crock pot the week before. We ate it anyway, but I just was not enjoying eating it. It really didn’t taste that good to me.

When I commented to Jim about this he asked, “How much of that is because you were counting on beef stew?” Well, of all of it really. The chicken tasted fine the week before, and I love chicken made in the crock pot. The chicken is always so moist and tender when cooked that way. I ate the piece in my bowl with a spoon. That’s how tender it was. So what is going on here? The same thing that is going on everyday — what I expected the outcome to be is affected how I was viewed (or tasted in this case) the situation. I expected one thing and got another, so I was disappointed with what I got. The result was a dinner that didn’t taste good to me in that moment. Life is about managing expectations – our own and others. If someone is disappointed, then how were their expectations not met and why?

Think about how many expectations you set everyday. Most of these expectations are ingrained and not thought about. Most of us expect the sun to rise, the car to start when we turn the key, and to get to work on time when we leave the same time as we did before. We expect water to come out of the faucet, and for it to be hot if we turned on the hot water. We expect the TV to come on, the phone to ring, the oven to work. The list goes on and on. All of these expectations, and many more, are part of the background noise of our daily lives, and when one of them doesn’t turn out the way we expect, we are disappointed. As I write this I am thinking about how my life would be if I let go of all expectations. I don’t think I will achieve that soon and yet, think of how different holding that perspective that could be. How different would it be if instead of expecting hot water out of the faucet, I gave thanks because it’s there or if I said “Thank you” every time my car started. Such a different life that would be. It would be one of wonderment and amazement for all the amazing things that are going on around us.

WOW. Look at that! The fan and light came on when I flipped a switch. How cool is that!

In love and light


Are you Accepting and Trusting your Intuition?

   “… intuition is really a sudden immersion of the soul into the universal current of life, where the histories of all people are connected.” by Paulo Coelho in The Alchemist

We are receiving, into our senses, billions (or more) bytes of information every day, every minute. It happens all of the time. Even asleep we are still receiving and processing information. This is much more information than our bodies and mind can truly process. Our senses filter out much of what we perceive so that we can function in this world. Our minds don’t decode, so to speak, the information they do not feel is relevant at this moment. However, that information is still there. That information is part of the universal current of life.

When we allow ourselves to tap into that other information, the information we normally don’t look at, we begin opening ourselves up to the soul of the world. Our bodies are amazing instruments and when you allow yourself to be open to “hearing” and “seeing” what you may never have seen before, it begins to process that information for you. That is what intuition is – a tapping into and decoding of information that has always been there but you have formerly disregarded as irrelevant. We can process a lot of information when we allow ourselves to. Our bodies are walking information banks, giving us signals all of the time. It is the same with the world around us. Our intuition is the antenna that picks up different levels of signals than we normally allow ourselves to process.

Allowing yourself to accept your intuition as truth and trusting in the information you receive will strengthen and enhance that antenna. You will be surprised and amazed at what begins to happen in your life when you tap into that universal current of life. Insights and solutions seem to come from nowhere. You can see patterns before where there seemed to be only chaos. Understanding, compassion, and acceptance come from within as you begin to learn what is happening to others and what they are feeling. Your intuition is an amazing tool. Cultivate and use it to support you in walking the path of your life. That is when the magic really happens.

In love and light